As women, we yearn for close friends, and we thrive with them in our lives-I call them ‘sister friends’. I also know that so many of us struggle with finding and creating these intimate friendships, and we feel lonely, and different, as a result of not being able to. We’ve experienced our own trauma, and the stories from yesterday have now cast a shadow over what we really yearn for.

Maybe you go to church and no one is sitting by you, or you attend a party and no one is gravitating toward you, or even making eye contact with you. We tend to shrink, and disconnect, and we end up numbing and distracting ourselves because we don’t want to try again, and have a similar reaction happen. You may think you can just focus on your family-your kids, your husband, and other family members. I definitely experienced this in my own life, but my heart never stopped yearning for those deep connections with sister friends.

I want you to know that I see you, and I hear you, and my heart hurts for you. I also want you to know that the only thing keeping you from making these valuable connections is the story you’re telling yourself, and you’re clinging to. Wherever you land on this spectrum with sister friends, I want to discuss why this is happening, and what you can do about it going forward.

In today’s episode, I’m talking about:

-The story you tell yourself as to why you disconnect and don’t try to make friends due to the ‘sister wounds’ you’ve experienced

-How my own story began with my sister wounds at only eight years old. I was at a sleepover with about 25 friends, and some other girls were pretending to be like my best friend and I when I was sleeping. I felt so ashamed and mortified, and I cried in my sleeping bag for the rest of the night. From that time on, my dialogue about other girls was “girls are mean, and vindictive, and catty, and they don’t mean what they say”.

-What happened when I decided to change my story, and started showing up differently for myself

-How finding your sister friends and your community who support you will play a huge part in your healing journey

Finding our sister friends and healing our sister wounds for good.

I want you to think of the popular saying “your vibe attracts your tribe”. It really is a cool thing to go from feeling so alone and disconnected from others, to having a tribe that you miss dearly, and wish you could make more time for. I’ve experienced this in my own life, and it’s truly a beautiful thing!

I’ve now found sister friends that support me and show up for me, no matter what is going on in my life. I’m able to receive their love, and give love back; the emotional baggage of yesterday I had was disposed of. As a result, I was able to move forward with joy, ease, and love, and these emotions invited them to come back to me.

You need to feel in order to heal, because emotions are energy, and my friends allow for me to do this. I want you to know it’s okay to feel so you can heal your sister wounds; you absolutely can find your sister friends, and the authentic connection you’re looking for is out there!

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